Women and drinks: Men's views

A group of men are drinking at a local bar in the city and are watching a repeat soccer match. One suddenly talks about the way the secretary was dressed in the office, citing how he wished he could turn back the clock and go back to his youthful days.

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“We have a new secretary these days and you could wish to spend the day visiting the reception. This woman has a perfume that fills the whole reception. She is so attractive that I greet her every time I pass by the reception just to catch a glimpse of that beautiful smile. I wanted to ask her out when I noticed a ring on her finger. Should I go ahead even though she is married?”

Tinashe: honestly I see no problem in asking her out for drinks because she is married. You are also married so who can question seeing that you both have rings.

Noel: I would advise you to go ahead. She is human and her husband could be asking his colleagues for drinks as well. Every normal being deserves to have fun.

James: I am against your idea. Imagine if that beautiful secretary was your wife and you find her in a bar after hours, having drinks with a male colleague. If she was my wife, she would definitely pack her bags and leave.

Chris: That would not be enough my friend, I would first bash her for disrespecting me. Accepting that offer means that she goes out with every man who asks her out. That is why I did not allow my wife to work because of what I have observed at the workplace.

Tinashe: Bashing a woman cannot stop her from going for drinks with colleagues. We drink till late and women are lonely at home. Is it wrong if she also spends time with colleagues?

James: I won’t have a problem if she was going for drinks with female friends not man. What would she be discussing with a man especially in the evening? Women are easily taken away my friend.

Chris: I support you on that point. What does a married woman discuss with somebody's husband  at a time when she should be home cooking. The next thing you hear when she gets home is that she is very tired and because she worked overtime.

Noel: I give up. You guys are really harsh and I wonder how your wives manage to stay with such man. I think you also check their messages.

The conversation goes on till late and a lot of issues are raised including the way women dress in the office amongst other issues. They agreed that beating a woman was the best method of discipline.

Is it wrong for working women to go out for drinks with male colleagues? Is gender based violence the solution to solving issues between couples?

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NB. The above views were collected from a discussion held at a local bar and the names of characters are not real.