Sharing Finances

I was very independent with my finances before marriage. I was employed as a teacher for three years, earning a good salary that could sustain me for the month and beyond. Every month I could afford to buy new clothes because I did not have responsibilities since my parents were also working.

My husband and I stayed for 2 years before thinking about starting a family. I had freedom over my salary as l could spoil myself with facials as well as expanding my wardrobe. I used to live a happy life filled with the best memories ever.

I miss those days as I can no longer afford to go out for drinks with my friends, let alone visiting. With marriage comes a lot of responsibilities which at times make me regret that moment I said “I DO.”

Finally, I got pregnant and that was the most anticipated news. Things fell apart as I could no longer spend as desired. My husband started monitoring my account to an extent of banning from accessing some luxuries.

I was depressed emotionally as my freedom was taken away from me. I use to get sick towards monthend knowing that we would go to the bank together and there was a long “to do list” waiting at home.

I was frustrated most of the time as he would afford to squeeze in money for his drinks with friends yet I could no longer buy a new pair of shoes.

Reader’s what can she do in such a situation? Is it a wise move to combine finances in marriage?